What should be done to identify and eliminate personality defects ?

1. Prepare a list of your personality defects

Every individual has some defect or the other. Do you know about anyone in your school, neighbourhood or circle of friends who does not have any personality defect ? No, is it not ?.

God is only one without any defects because he is enriched with all virtues. Remaining happy all the time is the basic nature of God. Now, let us see which defects we need to overcome and which virtues we need to inculcate to become happy like Him. Given below is a comparative list of some defects and virtues. The classification of defects made further has been done to help us decide which defect is more detrimental. The order of defects in each classified group is made as follows – the most detrimental defects first followed by the lesser ones. Based on each individual’s temperament and personality defects this classification can be changed partially.

2. Personality defects which are more distressing to others

Defect	Virtue that needs to be adopted
A. Destructive attitude	Performing constructive tasks
B. Quarrelsome	Mingling with others, forgiving
C. Short-temper	Understanding, affectionate
D. Irritable	Self-control, peaceful
E. Arrogant	Humble
F. Looking down upon others	Respecting others
G. Criticising others	Praising others, appreciating virtues
H. Not hospitable	Hospitable
I. Blaming others	Understanding others
J. Harbouring misconceptions	Not harbouring misconceptions, constantly living in the present
K. Stubborn	Mingling with others, attitude of listening to others, behaving as per others wishes, not developing a pessimistic attitude
L. Moody	Regularity, decisiveness, consistency
M. Tardy / late	Punctuality

3. Personality defects which are more distressing to oneself

Defect	Virtue that needs to be adopted
A. Envy	Feeling praise for others, attitude of learning from others
B. Jealousy	Feeling appreciation for others, not feeling jealous, encouraging others, no animosity towards others
C. Suspicion	Not suspicious, feeling secure, trusting others
D. Proud	Humble
E. Arrogance	Not arrogant, humble
F. Telling lies	Speaking the truth
G. Dishonesty	Honesty
H. Ungrateful	Grateful
I. No repentance	Repentance, feeling dejected on doing something wrong
J. Emotional	Control over emotions
K. Lack of seriousness	Understanding the seriousness of an issue
L. Lack of planning	Good planning
M. Forgetful	Good memory
N. Impatient	Patient, self-control
O. Performing tasks carelessly	Performing tasks carefully
P. Careless	Careful
Q. Fearful	Courageous, fearlessness, possessing the ability to fight
R. Irresponsible	Responsible
S. Not performing duties	Dutiful
T. Not working with concentration/shirking duties	Working wholeheartedly
U. Overspending	Thrifty
V. Day-dreaming	Thinking of the present, living in the present continuously
W. Introverted	Extroverted, mingling socially
X. Noticing others defects	Paying attention to your own defects, not criticising others
Y. Disobedient	Obedient
Z. Shy	Carefree, confident in a crowd
AA. Not systematic	Systematic

4. Personality defects which are less distressing to oneself

Defect	Virtue that needs to be adopted
A. Lazy	Prompt, hardworking
B. No concentration	Concentration
C. Not self-confident	Self-confident
D. Poor decision making	Good decision making
E. No leadership qualities	Leadership qualities, firm, not withdrawing from a situation, steady
F. Lack of perseverance	Perseverance
G. Unnecessary talk	Speaking precisely, speaking what is necessary
H. Selfish	Unselfish, benevolent attitude
I. Narrow-minded	Broadminded
J. Self-centred	Concerned about others or expansive
K. Not lending possessions to others	Sacrificing for others sake
L. Not generous	Generous
M. No concern for others	Concern, love, unconditional love for others